How to Show Gratitude

When I started my recovery journey in 2006, it seems like everybody from my therapist to my mentors had one vitally essential tool in their toolbox that they highly suggested I take advantage of - a "Gratitude List." They suggested I use it even if and especially if I felt as though the world and the people within it were against me. 

I took their suggestion, often times digging my heels in. At first it seemed as though there was no positive effect. However, as when we we are starting any new behaviors, the positive results are not always immediately noticeable. I will say that by the end of the first week of using the gratitude list, my attitude did begin to shift. 

My suggestion is that you make a list of five things you are grateful for, even if it is the same five things. We can all find five things in oour life we are grateful for. Then, take one of those things you are grateful for and write out why you are grateful that one thing. I will guarantee that if you consistently practice this when you are feeling down, within a day or two you will start feeling uplifted and happy. 

Showing gratitude towards others is another way I use to lift up my spirits. I always look for how I can complement or show my gratitude towards others, especially when I am having a not so good day. This has never failed to improve my attitude of maditude, especially when I see that persons face light up with appreciation. Showing gratitude is also a wonderful way to express appreciation and strengthen relationships.

​Here are some ways you can show gratitude:

• Say "Thank You": The simplest and most direct way to show gratitude is to say "thank you." Be sincere and specific about what you're thankful for.
• Write a Thank-You Note: A handwritten note can be a very personal and meaningful way to express gratitude. It shows that you've taken the time and effort to convey your appreciation.
• Give a Gift: Giving a small, thoughtful gift can be a great way to express gratitude. It doesn't have to be expensive; what matters is the thought and effort behind it.
• Acts of Service: Offer to help in a way that you know would be appreciated. This could be anything from doing a chore, helping with a task, or offering your time and skills.
• Listen and Be Present: Sometimes, showing gratitude means being a good listener and being present for someone. Show that you value their presence and their words.
• Provide Encouragement: Encourage and support the person you're grateful for. Let them know you believe in them and appreciate what they do.
• Public Recognition: If appropriate, publicly acknowledge someone's contributions or efforts. This could be in a meeting, on social media, or in front of a group of people.
• Give Compliments: Compliment the person on their qualities or actions. Be specific and genuine in your praise.
• Share a Meal: Invite the person for a meal, whether it's cooking for them or going out together. Sharing food is a universal way of showing appreciation.
• Remember Special Occasions: Acknowledge birthdays, anniversaries, or other significant events in the person's life. A thoughtful message or gesture on such occasions goes a long way.
• Express Gratitude Through Body Language: Smile, make eye contact, and use positive body language to show your appreciation.
• Apologize When Necessary: If you've made a mistake, a sincere apology can be a powerful way to show gratitude for someone's patience or forgiveness.
• Pay It Forward: Sometimes the best way to show gratitude is by helping someone else in a way that honors the help you received.
• Reflect and Appreciate Internally: Take time to reflect on what someone has done for you and internally acknowledge your gratitude. This can help you appreciate their efforts even more.
• Maintain a Positive Attitude: Being positive, upbeat, and showing enthusiasm in your interactions can convey a sense of gratitude for being in someone's company.

Remember, genuine gratitude comes from the heart. It's important to be sincere and specific in your expressions of thanks. Tailor your approach to the individual and the situation, and always be considerate of their preferences and comfort level with receiving gratitude.

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