The concept of God has been a subject of contemplation and interpretation for countless generations. The essence of God is love in its purest form. So if God is love what is love? The answer to that is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 – “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…” God is absolute unconditional love. Absolutely no strings attached. Why is it so hard for us to except this as being the truth of who God is? The answer has always been right in front of us, we just have not been able to see it. In this blog post, we’ll discuss one of the biggest if, not the biggest reason - we project our parents face and roles as parents onto God.
The act of putting our parents faces and roles on God is actually a bigger issue than most of us realize within the religious world as we know it, whether that is a Christian faith, Buddhist faith, Mormon faith or any one of the many world religions. We must remember in many of these faith based practices, we look at God as our Father, Abba. A father that loves us unconditionally and forgives us of all our sins and wrong doings without questioning. The reality for so many is that they had a father here on earth that has fallen way short of these standards. Their love and forgiveness was conditional, contingent on certain conditions, or rules on them giving of their love. A fathers love is supposed to simulate Gods unconditional love, no strings attached. Sadly, there is a very large number of us that grow up with a father that displayed the latter attributes I mentioned above.
When we grow up in a home where we may have been abused in any way, it can cause a deeply profound hurt, as well as confusion and dysfunction. Distrust can then be unleashed in a young person’s life in overwhelming ways. These things are ways the enemy, Satan, uses to pull us away from God. These have nothing to do with who God is, yet we come up with a view of God that judges or punishes us based upon how we are meeting our fathers (parents) expectations and conditions. When such abuse does occur, the picture of a father that God the Father intended us as a child or young adult to see, one of a role-model, becomes skewed, shattered and confusing.
The good news about all of this is that you can overcome this dilemma. I have, that is why I believe this is a vital subject that must be talked about. For those of you that grew up in a home where the attributes of God the Father were displayed to you by your father or parents, you have been given a gift that many in this world only hoped for, cherish it. To those of you that grew up in a home where your father did not or did not know how to display Gods attributes, yet you have worked through the process and have developed a relationship with God the Father, I am proud of you. For those of you still struggling with this, I invite you to reach out to me at healandresorecounseling.com and I will be more than happy to journey with you on this quest. I would also encourage all parents to listen to the Heal And Restore podcast titled – A Message to Parents - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/randy-l-boyd/episodes/A-Message-to-Parents-e29cjko
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Cathy and I have been happily married since 1983. However it has not been without our share of issues, yet we have persevered through all of them. We have three amazing kids that have grown into well respected and loved adults in their communities. We are the proud "Papo" & "Mami" of three beautiful granddaughters and 2 handsome grandsons. We enjoy spending quality time with our family. Randy enjoys cycling, working out, hunting, fishing, and playing the guitar. Cathy loves working in the garden, cooking, and camping. Together we love traveling. Although we have been blessed to visit several foreign countries, our favorite place to travel to is the beautiful island of Maui where we spend most of our time together laying on the beach enjoying the serenity of the Maui energy.